Yeah the line is definitely somewhere before you get to the dog mask. But that doesn't make it easy to define.
That's also why I said someone in a position of actual command makes this worse. He has to deal with a level of necessary reputation that I think it's fair to say completely explodes when you see him in a bondage puppy suit.
As for the 19-year-old Gunner versus a commander, I stopped believing in aged-based maturity a long time ago. People with far more to lose than this schmuck have been caught doing what seem like absurd things. Remember the senator who got caught soliciting gay sex in an airport bathroom?
As I've gotten older and seen more, my perspective on these types of seemingly reckless actions have changed. Not to say that I condone them, because I think there has to be a disincentive form of punishment, but it is also very easy for people without those proclivities to judge those who have them. I did, and often still do.
Let's take an extreme example. Pedophilia. Anyone who thinks you make a decision to be a pedophile is delusional. Something is broken in their head, and despite the incredibly dire ramifications, they still go out there and get caught diddling kids. Can you even imagine what that must be like? To have that type of evil in you and be unable to stop it? I had a very simple view of it until one of my friends blew his brains out, because he had been caught. None of us had any clue.
He should have gone to jail for a very long time for what he did, but that doesn't change the very difficult moral question of how you deal with people with broken brains.
So on a less extreme level, if you're the commander who spent his whole life dreaming of butt fucking a younger man in a gimp puppy suit, no, I'm no longer surprised that people succumb to those desires. Nothing is more powerful than sexual urges in humans, and I simply count myself lucky that my urges are boring and socially acceptable 🤣😂
Maybe the answer is to destigmatize the non-harmful kinks to the point that people are comfortable identifying them, but coming to an agreement that such predilections make one unsuitable for command. I don't know dude, but this isn't going to be the last scandal like this.