Averages in the AD fighter world:
- Gone from home 50% of the time (TDY, deployments)
- 60 hrs/week at work (at work time, not counting the hours you’ll sporadically spend at home finishing prep for upgrade rides…first as the student, then in the future as an IP).
- Daily work times all over the place depending on training plan, airspace times, etc. If you have young kids be prep’d for time periods you won’t see them for days at a time since you’ll be gone to work before they wake up and home when they’re back to bed (or at least close to it). But then there’s a night week where you get several hours with them in the morning…just have a good coffee plan since you went to bed at 0230 and they woke you up at 7.
The above are general for CAF fighter squadrons. If you take an assignment at some point to AETC, test (kind of…can actually be worse time-with-family wise sometimes), UPT, etc. you’ll likely get a reprieve from the hustle and have a lot more time with family. Great leadership vs. meh leadership can swing this either direction. The ANG is better QOL.
How I handled the above with wife and kids: maxed the weekends with them, if I had the ability to get home early enough to have dinner and some post-dinner time with them I’d do that, then finish up whatever prep-for-next-day I had after kids went to bed. I took leave when I could and didn’t feel bad about it. There are less ops tempo times as well…sometimes you have a phase where you can get away earlier. Use those “gifts” to do things with family instead of having that 6th beer in the bar (but definitely have a couple!)