Fud Posted April 29, 2019 Share Posted April 29, 2019 I've read some interesting advice on here and will provide the following. 1. Realize the need to always be reasonable, but do not be a doormat to her demands. Divorce is a marathon, not a sprint, and you should never give away something without gaining something in return. 2. Always ask for what is reasonable in court. The party who is unreasonable will not get everything they want. 3. Your ex sounds like an alcoholic and someone who would rather be out with her boyfriend than taking care of the children. Have your lawyer use this to your advantage. 4. Manage your lawyer, they work for you. Not the other way around. 5. Set precedent, if able, to only receive communications via email or a service like myfamilywizard. BTW, MFW is free for Vets and Active duty, but costs the non-Veteran. 6. VA Compensation is not divisable in divorce. It is not an asset or considered income in child support or alimony calculations. 7. Finally, for now, remember that everything you agree to in the beginning, can/will likely be permanent in the future. Do not budge on custody if you want 50/50. Best of luck. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SocialD Posted April 29, 2019 Share Posted April 29, 2019 16 hours ago, 17D_guy said: Church Plenty of skallywags there trying to feel better about themselves, but it's a better place than most. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Duck Posted April 29, 2019 Author Share Posted April 29, 2019 I am hearing that VA compensation in Florida is used as income in the calculations.Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fud Posted May 1, 2019 Share Posted May 1, 2019 On 4/29/2019 at 6:04 PM, Duck said: I am hearing that VA compensation in Florida is used as income in the calculations. Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app Look up Greg Parsons on facebook. He has an affidavit template that you can pay for and it is excellent. Also, check out this link. Great book that can be bought on kindle or viewed for free online. Great resource on divorce. http://www.realworlddivorce.com/ 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bfargin Posted May 1, 2019 Share Posted May 1, 2019 The service organizations are quite experienced at filing VA claims. Reach out to the DAV, PVA, or AmVets. The PVA usually does spinal cord injured vets but I know people who they have represented who weren't paralyzed. Their service officers are usually excellent. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Royal Posted July 31, 2019 Share Posted July 31, 2019 Any updates, Duck? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Duck Posted August 2, 2019 Author Share Posted August 2, 2019 Heading to mediation soon. The story got crazier and crazier after my original post. One day soon when the dust settles I will entertain you all with the story.Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
matmacwc Posted September 26, 2019 Share Posted September 26, 2019 On 8/1/2019 at 7:25 PM, Duck said: Heading to mediation soon. The story got crazier and crazier after my original post. One day soon when the dust settles I will entertain you all with the story. Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app How’s it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EvilEagle Posted September 28, 2019 Share Posted September 28, 2019 Damn dude, I'm just catching up on a lot of BO threads. I have zero to offer other than moral support. Hang in there, hope it's getting better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Duck Posted September 28, 2019 Author Share Posted September 28, 2019 Getting finalized in around 7 days. Once I have paper in hand, pop some popcorn, this story is going to be entertaining.Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app 2 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
raimius Posted September 28, 2019 Share Posted September 28, 2019 Good luck, man. I hope things get back toward a good kind of normal for you soon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Duck Posted September 28, 2019 Author Share Posted September 28, 2019 I’ve never been so happy, and she’s never been so miserable...Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app 12 2 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FltDoc Posted September 28, 2019 Share Posted September 28, 2019 3 hours ago, Duck said: I’ve never been so happy, and she’s never been so miserable... Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app 👍 I'm glad for you. Hated seeing the bad stuff you went through. Good luck with the rest of the process. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guardian Posted October 9, 2019 Share Posted October 9, 2019 Getting finalized in around 7 days. Once I have paper in hand, pop some popcorn, this story is going to be entertaining.Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile appWords????? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HossHarris Posted October 9, 2019 Share Posted October 9, 2019 On 9/27/2019 at 11:08 PM, Duck said: Getting finalized in around 7 days. Once I have paper in hand, pop some popcorn, this story is going to be entertaining. Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Duck Posted October 9, 2019 Author Share Posted October 9, 2019 So am I. I ended up having to kinda be a jerk to my lawyer. I was supposed to have a Final Judgement on the 25th, he screwed up the paperwork and forgot to put in there that my ex could change her name and then I think he just put it on the back burner since he already had my money. I called him up and told him I had retained a new lawyer and he all of a sudden started working again. Told me it should be done this week, even if he has to hand deliver paperwork to the judge. Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BFM this Posted October 9, 2019 Share Posted October 9, 2019 Just because they have the J.D., doesn’t necessarily mean they have a better crosscheck or eye for detail. For anyone approaching the point of departure: I did a lot of writing during my divorce. A LOT. Like, more than I had in college, more than PDE/IDE. And I fucking HATE to write. I learned to do legal research and included citations. About 40% of what I wrote ended up on the floor after editing, but quite a bit ended up directly cut and pasted into my motions, with the legal mechanics built around the story. And with my good lawyers ($$$) it saved me some coin. But more importantly, there was no way that my attorneys could have had the in-depth detail awareness, or made all of the logical connections toward a meaningful conclusion, if I were just feeding them cocktail napkin notes the whole time. ...fwiw. 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gazmo Posted October 9, 2019 Share Posted October 9, 2019 Just because they have the J.D., doesn’t necessarily mean they have a better crosscheck or eye for detail. For anyone approaching the point of departure: I did a lot of writing during my divorce. A LOT. Like, more than I had in college, more than PDE/IDE. And I ing HATE to write. I learned to do legal research and included citations. About 40% of what I wrote ended up on the floor after editing, but quite a bit ended up directly cut and pasted into my motions, with the legal mechanics built around the story. And with my good lawyers ($$$) it saved me some coin. But more importantly, there was no way that my attorneys could have had the in-depth detail awareness, or made all of the logical connections toward a meaningful conclusion, if I were just feeding them cocktail napkin notes the whole time. ...fwiw.Very true. I have dealt with quite a few lawyers who were as dumb as a box of rocks. Just because they know how to read a lot and pass a bar doesn't mean they are smart. I have discovered that there isn't much the average person can't get accomplished in the legal system with time and research, but most people don't realize that and feed the legal machine with money. It is a business. There is lots of money to be made from failed marriages . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JimNtexas Posted October 10, 2019 Share Posted October 10, 2019 With respect to lawyers, my wife and I are enrolled agents. She frequently works with lawyers on tax issues related to tax, including many divorce cases. She often finds lawyers who are pretty disorganized, and often are not exactly the sharpest tool in the shed. To be fair they tell us that there is little or no training in law school on the practical issues faced by working attorneys, so there is a lot of OJT. My suggestion is look for an ugly lawyer with gray hair and wrinkles. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
matmacwc Posted October 18, 2019 Share Posted October 18, 2019 On 10/9/2019 at 3:39 AM, Duck said: So am I. I ended up having to kinda be a jerk to my lawyer. I was supposed to have a Final Judgement on the 25th, he screwed up the paperwork and forgot to put in there that my ex could change her name and then I think he just put it on the back burner since he already had my money. I called him up and told him I had retained a new lawyer and he all of a sudden started working again. Told me it should be done this week, even if he has to hand deliver paperwork to the judge. Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app My popcorn is getting cold. 🙂 2 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FUSEPLUG Posted October 18, 2019 Share Posted October 18, 2019 2 hours ago, matmacwc said: My popcorn is getting cold. 🙂 Popcorn? I’m thinking a couple (three) glasses of scotch will be in order when this story is told. 🥃 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kenny Powers Posted October 19, 2019 Share Posted October 19, 2019 (edited) It's Friday, what better day for Scotch and bitchin' about women. Let's hear it Duck! Edited October 19, 2019 by Kenny Powers Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gazmo Posted October 19, 2019 Share Posted October 19, 2019 It's Friday, what better day for Scotch and bitchin' about women. Let's hear it Duck!Pick any one of the 7. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kenny Powers Posted October 19, 2019 Share Posted October 19, 2019 (edited) 17 minutes ago, Gazmo said: 30 minutes ago, Kenny Powers said: It's Friday, what better day for Scotch and bitchin' about women. Let's hear it Duck! Pick any one of the 7. Ok. I'll take Friday for $1000, Trebek. Edited October 19, 2019 by Kenny Powers Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fire4effect Posted October 19, 2019 Share Posted October 19, 2019 I'll take link to revenge porn website for $69 Alex 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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