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Yea, fuck those guys.

There's a big difference here: CB Ford was trying to ruin someone (Kavanaugh). McSally doesn't seem to be going the vindictive route. She simply states "Yes, it happened to me, and I get it.". She's not starting a Congressional inquiry to ruin an innocent man. If I'm missing something about her intent, let me know. I really know very little about the woman. The few things I do see since she retired from the USAF, I applaud.

True for you. Not for all. Show us the money and let the market sort it out. Edit to add: preserving options to leave would only help. The service commitment functions as a multiplyer on the bonus of somewhere between 0 and 1 depending on the individual’s situation.

I saw this, also. TL/DR. There's a lot of books and research into how complexity causes collapse... in systems, organizations, societies, civilizations. The Air Force seems to be following the roadmap precisely. Some of the biggest hallmarks are: - Continuous increase in complexity in spite of diminishing and even declining returns - Reaching a level of complexity that is unsustainable due to.... - An exhaustion of resources. (Labor and funding) - Insufficient response to circumstances due to set thinking/creeping normalcy - Mismanagement by an out of touch elite leadership. All we're missing are external shocks from the economy, competition (in progress), and conflict.

Non-line vs Line. Old mentalities. Broken systems. DOPMA. The list goes on. Lots to fix and Fingers ain’t gonna cut it. Just look at AMC...they released a 120 page supplement of ADDED material to 11-202...to reduce pubs. This is in addition to another 100+ page 11-2MDS that will only shrink maybe 20 pages. The machine just doesn’t care. Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app

Make a pilot pay scale like doctors that accounts for the lost money due to not promoting Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app

School, undesirable attached jobs, undesirable PCSs, higher 365 threat, a command they don’t want, etc. I’m just the messenger, not saying these are my opinions.

Damn, I am sorry to read this. As so many have testified in this thread, you aren't the first to have it happen, but it still hurts intensely personally. So, mostly my advice echoes what's been offered: 1. Lawyer 2. Freeze assets 3. If you can stand the loss, cut your material losses and let her have it. Eventually, you will get new stuff and she'll have the by now old stuff that breaks and is utterly not your problem. 4. Lawyer for any communication if at all possible. Even if this is "amicable," using a lawyer can help prevent another last minute surprise as like what set this sad thing in motion. 5. If you can afford it, and this sounds like the absolute worse time for it - starting airline pay, temp Guard time, etc., offer big on child support in return for reduced or no spousal support. She can get a job as her newly acquired license shows. And if she does become successful, there's nothing that prevents you from seeking spousal support in a community property state. 'Sacrificing' now for and with the kids will eventually end and you are shed of her and any further commitments to, for, and around her. Free at last, free at last, thank God almighty, you'll be free at last. 6. If possible, I might disagree with the staying in the house stand. Too much opportunity for her to say you lost your temper and she needs more compensation. If you aren't there, and you both are gonna have to sell the house anyway (1/2 the sales cost is on her, btw), it doesn't really matter. And keeps you in the use a lawyer for any communication mode. That 1/2 of all bills/expenses from her execution day forward should be split in a community property state (Ask me how I know...). That's a fact that she may not be expecting; some substantial debt starting now vs. the pay-off she might've expected. That's leverage for you - "I'll take X amount of debt now in return for no/smaller percentage of spousal support." Again, some pain and money out of pocket now and a cauterizing of the financial/emotional wound fairly soon.

#fakenews She claims to be the first female fighter pilot, but she flew A-10's.... I'll leave that grenade here as I slowly walk away.

Sorry to hear that, Brother. Wrap your brain around the concept that she will get half of everything you ever earned while you were together. If you're able to come out better, then it's all gravy. Do everything you can to remain civil and professional with her. Never let your kids hear you say anything bad about her. Ever. Not once. As strange as this sounds, moving forward your relationship with her, and it's failure are none of their business. No matter how badly she may behave, she's their Mom. If you can sit down at the kitchen table with her and put it all on a legal pad, you'll save yourself a lot of angst and attorney fees. If you can "give in" to certain things she wants in order to facilitate a quick agreement in return for certain things you want, it's worth every penny. People will give you advice like: "Roll in on that cunt and fight her tooth and nail!" Ask those people to compare what they think they "won" in court financially to what it cost to litigate it. It isn't worth it. Moving forward, your relationship with her is going to be jointly parenting your kids. That relationship will be healthier for the kids if the two of you can agree to act like adults ad settle as amicably and quickly as possible. Now; You. You're a pro. Compartmentalize like a MF and work your way through indoc and IOE. When you get a chance, take some time for yourself. Nonrev to Hawaii and put it all out of your mind for a few days. Exercise is your friend - the more the better. At some point in all of this process, you'll have come far enough and gotten past the anger enough to look at what happened a little more objectively. When that happens, the single most important thing you can do is forgive her and yourself for what happened. Let it fucking go. You're also about to re-learn who your real friends are. Lean on those folks. Bigtime. Don't medicate with booze or food. That's it. The day you have to tell your children is the worst day of your life. Everyday after that will be just a little bit better. Good luck, chum. Those of us who've been through this are rooting for you. Hell, you can at least call yourself a real airline pilot now!

Yep, FL is 50/50 regardless from 3 bros I knew who got a divorce there. It was well worth it to them... They're much happier now. As for kids, they didn't have them, but I was the child of divorced parents and we recognize REAL QUICK who the bad parent is. I still can't get my "good parent" to say a negative thing about my "bad parent", but ask any of my siblings who they prefer and they'll laugh because it's a joke... we're all 18+ and holiday visits to the "bad parent" are minimal at best. Looks like your oldest daughter already knows... Just don't EVER let them see you show negative emotions towards her... Your wife seems like she's doing a great job ruining everything for herself so far, but (and this might sound counter-intuitive) be the adult and help her out... the kids will pick up on that as well. Sucks to hear, man. But I doubt very seriously that she's not going to be in full regret mode once all is said and done. Here's to wife #2 wherever she may be!

Take detailed notes.

Anyone know when the 2020 UFT application comes out?

Some communities are “all in” meaning there is no applying for command.

1. Undesirable attached jobs go to O-4’s 2. PCS’s will happen regardless 3. 365, O-4’s are same boat. 4. Simple, don’t apply for the CC list 5. School? Don’t apply/decline. There are a LOT of O-5’s flying the line because of the experience shortage. It’s awesome. If you are a pilot, especially an 11F, the USAF needs you more than you need it. Don’t avoid O-5 because you think life gets worse, it’s not true. Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app

Truer words have never been spoken. It’s amazing the crap we’ll put up with when we think we are doing it for the right reasons. It’ll be painful in the short-term, but if you learn from it and really think about what’s important for you in the future, you will end up far happier than you ever thought possible.

The TSP 'C' fund has Microsoft...how far down the rabbit hole will they go? https://www.businessinsider.com/microsoft-marijuana-tracking-software-2016-11 edit: and 'I' fund holds Novartis https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2018-12-18/tilray-goes-global-with-novartis-marijuana-sales-partnership

With your new airline career ahead, you will soon put this all behind you. My first day at a major was just as exciting as my first day at UPT. Like someone said, don't get involved, enjoy single life. I div before going to the airlines and unless you are flying boxes, it is a very target rich environment. Stayed single for 28 years then married a wonderful lady going into retirement. The day of my div was one of the happiest days of my life, a huge weight off my shoulders. Best of luck.

I liked this one on Prime:

That sucks. Im in the middle of a very bad one myself. My STBX just tried to sell our house without me knowing (im TDY right now). She has filed a motion to sell it and sent it to my lawyer. I now have to go to court to stop her (Ill win just another 1G down the drain). She is all over the place. Here is what you need to do: Don't move out its your house. I made this mistake. Stop Drinking until its over. Do not yell at her or touch her. She could try to get an EPO which if you lose in court gets you a DVO. You don't want to take the risk if she wants to be heard infront of the judge Lawyer up and don't be afraid to fire your lawyer mid stream Know that you are not your lawyer's priority they are balancing their practice as well; just find the best one you can that is smart. Get a Tempory Motion (or whatever they call it in Florida) immediatly for: Custudy - NEVER grant her sole custudy, get joint legal & physical Visitiation schedule and time sharing -- I travel extensivley for work I did not get one and the STBX fights me every time I want to take the kids on a trip/have them overnight. I know your lifestyle; for visitation/ timesharing get it written in that you will decide on a schedule by a certian day for the next month. Child support A staus quo agreement -- meaning no depriciation of join assests and additional joint debt. Seperate all joint accounts Cancel all joint CCs Get organized Every email/text phone call goes infront of a judge Get a phone recording app that records every call automatically Fight paying her any maintenance -- research jobs she is capable of getting to demonstrate she can make more than minimum wage. Duck I could go on and on Im 1.5yrs into this because she is unreasonable. Most important Love your kids.

Thank you Fud! It was great catching up with you and getting to help a fellow Aggie! Glad we made in painless for you! Enjoy the new house! Jon Cell: 850-377-1114 jk@mythl.com

Back to doing it illegally, like we used to do with the flight suit.

What LJDRVR said.

So, she's a diehard supporter of the "grab-em-by-the-pussy boss, to include voting for Brett Kavenaugh, because you know, that crazy bitch obviously made it all up. 😒 But now she's a victim that deserves to be believed because it really did happen to her? Unlike Kavenaugh's accuser, with her seat in Congress, she won't have to hide, move and deal with death threats. What a total piece of shit. Unless she names the person, I don't believe a word that comes out of her mouth.