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Only one warning from your post... if it flys, floats or fornicates it’s cheaper to rent than own. I’ve ops tested 2 of the 3 and I’ve found this principle to hold true. Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app

This cat has made so much money recreating the wheel it’s not even funny anymore. Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app

There has to be some crazy ex bitch playbook that they all use. My wife said the exact same thing about needing some space to work on the marriage. Fortunately in my case I had already been told not to move out of the house because of abandonment. Great advice on who claims the children as dependents. I will talk to my lawyer about that today. Thank you guys again for all the advice keep it Comin. y’all have helped me get through it. Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app

Perfect, so it doesn’t necessarily have to be done before the divorce is finalized. I think she would be able to get a loan, but I’d be willing to guess at a higher Interest Rate and bigger payment that would probably freak her out. I’m trying to just keep her calm and rational at least until we get paperwork signed. Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app

Thanks guys. That’s in line with what I was thinking. Sucks to be her. Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app

Quick question guys. She has been pretty agreeable on working through splitting the assets. I’m sure it has nothing to do with the fact that I have video of her and her boyfriend having sex in vehicle in a public parking lot in broad daylight but I digress. She wants to stay in the home which is under my VA home loan. I am fine giving it to her, but with her chosen career there is no way that she is going to be able to keep up with the payments. I also want to free up my VA loan so that I can have a place to settle down. Any advice? I know that if she keeps the home and assumes the VA Loan (she’s not a vet) that I am still responsible if she defaults, which she most likely will. We don’t have a heck of a lot of equity although I did put 10% down on it about a year and a half ago. Not sure what it would cost for her to refinance into an ARM or conventional. Any ideas? Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app

That is actually a great idea. We owe my dad (promissory note) around $56k so maybe me taking that on would help with some of the other crap. Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app

Thanks for all the advice. I have really leaned on a lot of these posts going forward. I have to say that the way I was blindsided by this I didn’t have too much time to assess how I felt. After taking the time, I realize that I’m mostly bummed for my kids but I was getting pretty tired of her $hit. I realized that I was doing my best to hold this together while she was busy trying to blame me for her failures as a mom, a friend and a wife. I made a promise to my 10 year old daughter a couple months ago when things started getting weird around the house that I was never going to file for divorce against her mom. I’m really glad I did that because once she found out about the divorce she knew immediately that I had given 100% to try and keep the family together, even to my own detriment. My wife’s paranoia that my 10 year old is plotting against her has completely turned the 10 year old against her. While I was drilling out of state, my wife took away my daughters phone, disconnected the house phone and refused to answer my calls to talk to the kids. She basically destroyed any chance she had of having a good relationship with our oldest and the two little ones aren’t too far behind. I try to just stay neutral. I don’t think it’s my job to cover for her bull$hit anymore, so while I don’t encourage the ill feelings towards their mom, I also don’t think it’s my job to fix her problems for her. Ultimately, I’m actually excited to get a fresh start. My lawyer is pushing for a 50/50 split with the kids which would be easy for me as an airline guy. Now that she has a job, she can’t claim 0 income so that will hopefully help me when alimony and child support is calculated. To be honest she was such a big leech on our finances I feel like I am even going to make it out better financially with the CS/alimony payments. I would be willing to bet, she will end up being broke though within 2 years. Thanks to her draining all our financial assets over the past 4 years with her frivolous spending we are both going to be leaving with pretty close to nothing. I really owe her though for going crazy/stupid now on Training Pay and not waiting till the real cash starting flowing in. Thank God that she is 100% emotion driven and not a logical/strategic thinker. Now to figure out this whole Tinder thing I guess? Kidding. Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app

Yeah I’m staying in the house till the final minute. I take the kids to school and workout/run errands, whatever until it’s time to pick them up. I will never be left alone with her. All guns relocated to my dads safe. Last night she went out till midnight, drove home, stumbled in drunk, woke up me and my oldest daughter, and crashed in my oldest daughters room (she moved in up there about 2 months ago, my daughter moved into our room and sleeps on the king bed with me). She woke up this morning throwing up around 0600 and begged me to make lunches, take them to school etc. Looks like she got up just in time to get out the door for her 1100 interview with a real estate broker. Fantastic. Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app

All guns relocated to my parents house a couple weeks ago when I first found out about the affair. Great advice again guys. Thanks and keep it coming. Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app

Solid advice brother. Meeting a lawyer tomorrow. I appreciate everyone on here. Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app

Fortunately/unfortunately because of the extended time I was waiting for the Guard to medically clear me, (aka unemployed), she ended up blowing through our savings completely. She’s gonna get nothing, except probably alimony/child support. She just got her real estate license but hasn’t started making any money. Interviewing tomorrow and Friday at brokers. Florida is a terrible place to get a divorce as a man. I’m hearing best case id get 50/50 split of the kids. She will probably fight for more just because of the child support check. She’s gonna want to stay in the home but it’s a VA loan. So as I understand it she would have to “buy me out” and refinance it into a conventional (putting money as a down payment as well). Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app

Gents, found out my wife had been having two affairs over the past 5 months. One while I was deployed. I got video/picture evidence of the affair through legal means. Tried to get her to work it out through marriage counseling but she just served me papers this week. We have 3 kids. I am currently an ANG dude part timer and start at a major airline here in April. Got any advice? Currently living in Florida. Mostly worried about her going after a huge chunk of my measly first year pay and my VA Disability. Fighting for 50/50 with the kids even though she is a terrible mother, but now the kids are just pawns. Thanks bros.

I wonder what the thought is behind not getting paid for the first month you are out? Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app

Related but unrelated. Got a text from my medical friend that now Stable Sleep Apnea, insect and food allergies are not disqualifying. Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app