Kid, here's the bottom line, prison rules don't apply here. If you come in guns ablazin' you won't earn everyone's respect because they think 'whoa I can't push this kid around,' you'll piss them off because they'll think that instead of listening, you're going to spend a bunch of time defending your bruised ego, which they don't give a ###### about (frankly, no one does). Whatever the case may be, they've been there, done that, you haven't, and they're speaking from experience that far exceeds any scope of your life. Anything you say that's not just a humble affirmation that you received the message is a painful waste of time. You were wrong or screwed up, admit it, you're human and made a mistake. Mistakes can be forgiven, just learn quickly and move on, no one cares about why you made the mistake because those are just excuses. But being able to quickly understand your mistakes, learn from them, and not repeat them is a skill. If they do care, they'll ask. Some guys are going to be sarcastic dicks. That's called humor. If you're insecure or have a fragile ego, it'll get to you. If you get pissed off when someone rips on you instead of thinking its funny and joking back then that's a dead giveaway that you have an ego/insecurity/attitude problem, which is like blood in the water around guys who are professional military flight crew. If you want to have a back-and-forth about your feelings and why you did what you did, get a girlfriend. Then you can spend hours discussing a subtle non-verbal expression so she'll stop being pissed off and start putting out again. If you want to be a decent officer candidate, then do the opposite! Just shut up, listen, realize you'll screw up, and learn when you do.
If you're concerned about your future family security potential, then just get out of the way because there are a thousand guys just as qualified as you (if not more) who have the same goal. The amount the military cares about you is money-spent-on-training*applicable-experience*current-manning-needs/ incompetence-of-AFPC. So for you it's probably something close to 0*0*10^(-10)/(big number).
Also, nobody on here cares about you or your specific tailored needs. They want to provide information to the entire community, so keep your questions general as opposed to telling us about your personal nuclear family dreams and your feelings and other fuzzy stuff. There has been some good info on this thread and I think you asked a good question, but the way you dealt with it showed that you have a lot of growing to do if you're going to succeed as an officer.