10 years post wings is a huge commitment to Uncle Sam- choose wisely . You are unlikely to both perform equally. There will likely be hurt feelings of woulda coulda shoulda on track and assignment night. I myself gave up my dream assignment overseas to take the safe choice at the big base to help get an assignment together. 12 years later, we’ve been together +/- a few months here and there, still married, 2 kids, and we are at that dream assignment now.
On the flip side, most of my friends that married fighter-heavy or heavy airframes that don’t base anywhere near each other have all had at least 1 person exit the service at the soonest possible opportunity (VSP) because the AF has no obligation to cross-train people to other airframes for convenience.
Both of you should let your Flt leadership know early what your intentions are (priority join spouse or airframe...very difficult to get both). They should help cage expectations as track and drop approach. 135, 17, or 130 to larger bases are more plentiful leading to better odds of remaining together. Work your asses off so you get a choice and leadership can trade if they have to...if either of you are bottom of the class, it ties everyone’s hands.
Good Luck.