I have yet to go through UPT (waiting on dates), but I asked my brother and cousin about it who both graduated about a year ago. I just got married as well, so I was especially curious before I got married whether I should wait or not. My brother got married about 6 months before UPT, and he said that was the best decision he has made. He said as long as she realizes how busy you will be, it is better to have her there with you rather than not. My cousin decided to wait until after UPT to get married (got married about 4 months after UPT), and he said it was more difficult with long distance and more time consuming than marriage has been so far for him. He said if he could do it over again, than he would get married beforehand. However, they are both guard tanker guys (what I got hired as also), so deployments are much shorter (30-60 day tours) and their now wives realized that after UPT things would cool down much more.