Pile on...
Cadets get "fam" flights so as to be "non-interference", i.e. you are merely sandbagging on an actual training sortie that would fly anyway and you are not supposed to be a LIMFAC...so if the airspace is best over water, you need water survival, if the mission requires above 18k, then you need a chamber card, if you're puking, too bad so sad here comes 9G again, so turn off the intercom, drop your mask and don't even think about making the crew chief clean up your chunks...by all this I mean they don't want to have to alter missions to accommodate your lack of qualifications/training or for your comfort. They're supposed to be relatively painless on squadrons.
Incentives, however, are the exact opposite. They are supposed to be sorties dedicated to the person in the backseat. They are not supposed to be training sorties at all. If the backseater wants to do nothing but pull Gs and aileron rolls, fine it's his sortie. If all he wants to do is sight see because he feels airsick, fine it's his sortie. This is why it takes so long for people to get scheduled for their incentive sorties...they have to dedicate an entire sortie just to that guy in back and give up a training line to do it. Squadrons understandably dont want to do that very often. So it's not even close to the same concept as the fam where a real training mission is happening and the dude in back is just along for the ride.
Having said all of that, fams and incentives--in reality--can look an awful lot alike and may or may not have happened in the past within the same formation. but that's not typical at all since they truly don't mesh well--by design.
So if you DO want to fly (like I said get your fucking story straight) then man up and try. Fam flights are not the same as incentives so you wouldn't be jumping in front of incentive riders in line. But it's unlikely you'll be in the same 2 ship as your little boyfriend. And I would not even ask the question if I were you.