I am in a similar situation.
I am going to UPT (Vance in Dec 13) and I am married with a child whom is not going with me. I have not been able to find any regulation that says an unaccompanied officer living in government quarters (dorms) can get BAH for back home.
I heard there was a waiver but I have been unable to find any information on it. If you have more information or know where to find the reg, can you let me know.
Thanks