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Great question. First, if you honestly see yourself with a significant other that is willing and able to play those cards, you need to protect yourself before it happens. Be a few steps ahead of them. I could go into great detail of the shite I've dealt with over the years, but forgive me for not wanting to spew my bad decisions and dirty laundry on a public forum. I can, however, write a book and can at least give you some pointers. Like I asked earlier, is the other person willing and able to play those cards? Do they have absolutely nothing to lose and everything to gain? If you are dealing with someone with NPD, I gaurantee they've thought about all of this before you have. You cannot make this stuff up. By the time you get a handle on the way such a person thinks, you will be sitting there with your dick in your hand wondering HTF you ended up in such a shitty place only to discover that this person tactically set themselves up and covered every base they could. These people are very smart, but definitely not in a good way. Find out the laws in your state for recording, both audio and video and take advantage of it. If it is a two party consent state, you are screwed, but many states are a one party consent state. When it comes to domestic violence, as a man, you are 99.69% screwed even if she left marks on you and short of audio/video surveillence, the local PD is not going to bother bringing out a forensic pathologist to figure out who hit who first or if you were simply protecting yourself and left a mark on her in the process (or if she was drunk off her ass and fell on her own). She may not have a job. You have one that requires you to sign a Lautenberg statement to carry a weapon in the Armed Forces. You can't do that with a DV charge. If you are dealing with an escalating situation with a person like this, call the cops first and file a compaint whether she touched you or not. CYA. The more complaints the better, especially if she drinks a lot. Get it on paper so it can be used in court. If you have audio recorders/cameras in the house, more power to you. Pour all the alcohol in the house down the drain. If you have weapons, get them out of the house and give them to family or a good friend to store so the cops can't take them in the event SigO claims you threatened to kill her. If you are going through something as shitty as this, talk to your supervisor before they find out something from someone else. I know most of us dudes don't want to talk about shit like this with anyone, especially with a fellow coworker and in the line of business we're in, but it looks better for you in the event psychobitch decides to call your boss and threaten your career. Again, record as much as you can when you can to CYA. I would refrain from leaving the home without a court order forcing you to leave. Document, document, document.

That’s a really good question that I wish I had the answer to. I think a lot of it boils down to society and this entitlement attitude everyone seems to have. I know in my case the mentality was you owe me this, I am entitled to this. She never wanted to work and stayed at home by her choice. Even when the kids started school she was happy just sitting on her ass and going out with friends shopping all the time. Whenever I mentioned her potentially working she always had an excuse of how she was so overloaded, even though the laundry was always piled up at home, she never cooked dinner, and the house always was messy as $hit. If you ever do have to go to court you will soon find out all about sexual equality. Us men do not get a fair shake most of the time. Even with all the damning evidence that I had and the fact that our kids hate her and don’t want to live with her it was still in my best interest to settle with her out of court. If you would have flipped the script and I was the chick I would have easily had full custody and not had to pay her a dime. But yeah equal rights for women. Fcvk that. Let’s be honest women always fare better in court in almost all cases whether it’s an accused rape or simple divorce. Rant over. I am actually doing fine but I still feel like the court didn’t do justice for my kids. If I was just one case that would be one thing but I have met more and more fathers who have been screwed by the court system. Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app

They’re buying three of each...there’s no economy of scale at that scale.

This is spot on and exactly what my lawyer recommended. I was scared for my life the past year. Sucks to be a prisoner in your own home. Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app

The problem is with our social conception of dating. As I said earlier in this thread: "Think about how many people you know. Then think about how many of them are good friends. Then think about how many of those are best friends. The friend you can go on a month long backpacking trip with and not get annoyed with or tired of once. Pretty rare, huh? Now add sexual compatibility to that. If you find your forever-mate after 3 months and a few tinder dates, you'd better be buying lottery tickets too..." Yet despite this incredibly difficult task, conventional wisdom and Hollywood teach us all sorts of things that are contrary to reality such as: - The helpless male who just needed the right woman to see his inner Casanova. - You have to fight for what's important? Why should the most important friendship be fought for when all my other friendships were not? - Going to counseling. If you have kids, go to counseling. If you don't, find someone who likes who you are, and you want to please without the guidance of a third party. - The entire tradition and industry behind weddings. A ceremony where the town walked 300 meters from their home to see a couple 17 year olds get married and give them the basics required to start a family because they literally have nothing. Now it's a parade where you spend a small fortune, you get some appliances you don't need in exchange for feeding mediocre food to the guests who wasted some vacation time to attend an event that, despite being indistinguishable from any other wedding and repeated thousands of times per day, stresses the newlyweds out for a year getting ready for it. It's all a sham. Go on lots of dates. If you don't leave the first date positively captivated by the person, ask yourself why you would choose that specific human to spend five or more decades with. And if you got laid, don't trust your gut.

The experience gained in the 7 year 'A' model has been invaluable for the current 22 years + 'B' model assignment. But, damn, that experience cost a helluva lot in time/stress/money...

We’ll see what happens, but I think I’m enjoying your delicious scotch in 14 months. I plan to drink it from a brown beret.

Absolutely apply anyway. Make THEM tell you no, don’t tell yourself.

To my understanding the official public release is mid November so advance CC notifications would be 7 days prior. Theoretically 8 Nov-ish. Just my interpretation though. if any of y’all have anything conflicting or more details please chime in.

I am in a very similar spot! Though, I also got an ETP for being old...

For those who have been through a not so easy divorce, have you, and if so how, had the other party get mad and say to pack you stuff and leave the house? While I have read never to do this, how have you handled them then threatening to call the police, say you are/were being abusive, and saying they will be calling your job to get you fired? Obviously staying in the house is best but what happens when it may no longer be safe/smart for you to do so? Some states won't grant a restraining order or anything like that without threat of physical violence so they can threaten this sort of stuff all they want and it won't qualify. I see it as a fine line between protecting you share of the house and stuff, but also protecting yourself from charges that could severely hurt your professional life.

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She must have gotten it from a toilet seat...

That’s not what CAF squadrons look like.

Try to resist the American "dream" to be married and have kids with the nice house with the white picket fence and a dog in the backyard. It's really over-rated and there is an almost 50% chance there will be one huge, steaming pile of dung sitting on top of it when it is too late to get out (without financially and emotionally destroying yourself). I get it. You meet that "perfect" chick who gives great head and seems normal, but there is literally a 50% chance she is a f#cking psycho.

And there’s the rub. It’d be nice and desired to have both positives, but if we do only get one (because the perfect scenario is unlikely) which do people want? The thing that chaps my ass is how emotional people get and so easily turn a blind eye to facts. I think Obama was very well spoken, polite, resembled the “consummate” politician of a first world country, but I also think his administration fucked it away horribly and he did a terrible job. I think trump is the antithesis of those same qualities, but his administration’s policies and actions are in general far more in line with what this country needs (my opinion obviously). So, perhaps he is the blowhard asshole that we needed at this particular time in our country’s existence. Doesn’t mean someone like him is the answer in ten years, but for now I think we needed a shakeup in the political elite class across both parties. In the end, I don’t care who the man in the seat is or if I’d invite him to my bbq, I care what he and his administration does for America. And right now, the dems are run by socialists, so yeah, I’ll take the loudmouth asshole over that.

I personally have seen something I cannot explain. And there are others I know that have seen even stranger things. There are some really interesting stories out there.

I stayed at the Turnberry last year. I've been stopping in Prestwick to/from deployments since 2002. We just tell the FBO when and how many people, and they make the arrangements. Last year we arrived right after a snow/ice storm that shut most of the major freeways for days. All of the hotels in Ayre (our usual location) and Glasgow were booked. The Turnberry, an hour drive away, had enthusiastically agreed to give us the government rate. The hotel itself was absolutely incredible and the staff thanked us profusely for our service. The bartender let us sample some of the local Scotch whiskeys. It was too cold for golf, but we toured the course which was an old WWII pilot training base, and some of the old runways/taxiways still exist on the course. The hotel called in a bagpiper to play us out the door as we departed for the sandbox at 5am. It was one of the best deployment sendoffs ever. There was nothing to it other than it was the only place with rooms available at the government rate, and the FBO was proud to have found a place that they thought we would enjoy. The media and politicians are idiots.

The benefits are (were) the support structure, especially during times of plenty when surplus T-34s and T-41s could be the backbone of the club, on base facilities, including avgas availability (which is gone with the wind, obviously). But you're right, the golden goose was strangled by the typically Air Force answer to non-existent problems, such as the hamfisted application of an AFI11-2AeroClubV1,2,3 template that turns a sunny day in search of the $100 burger into, well...more queep than it's worth. That the Air Force doesn't make support (real, risk managed, managment-managed approach) to supporting Aero Clubs is a shame. It should be a core cultural priority; we're the fucking AIR Force, for chrissakes! AFB's should have an Aero Club, Navy bases should have a sailing club, Army bases should have an MWR shooting range and backcountry hiking/camping.

FYI: For those wondering WTF is going with ukraine/ spygate and impeachment..and given that journalism is dead... listen to this guy - Dan Bongino.