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Bottom line: If you thought the Med Group was screwed up last time you showed up for some more Motrin, you haven't seen anything yet! It's the most un-military, military organization I've ever seen.

Dude, shack - I was married to a USAF nurse who experienced feedback sessions that included being told she was "too military-minded." Really? But then again, I've been told (to my face, in all seriousness, by an "officer") that the base was there, runway and all, to support the HOSPITAL. I wanted to go lay in traffic after that gem.

The Med Group is the largest collection of smart dumb people on every base.

Best of luck brother!

Chuck

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I'm currently in CSO training and haven't been assigned an airframe yet. Has anyone in here been a PIlot/CSO married to an Air Field Ops officer? My fiancee commissions this spring.

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I'm currently in CSO training and haven't been assigned an airframe yet. Has anyone in here been a PIlot/CSO married to an Air Field Ops officer? My fiancee commissions this spring.

I know a WSO married to an Airfield Ops officer; it seems to work fine because all pilots/WSOs/NAVs/EWOs fly in airplanes on airfields which thereby require airfield ops officers.

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Agreed to the above. However it isn't always that easy. You need to see what the requisitions are for the pcs cycle, if there isn't anything necessary sometimes out are out of luck. My wife is a personellist and we are running into trouble right now. Pm me for a more queepy conversation on af regs if interested in the process. The takeaway don't take no for an answer and network as much as possible

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Herc Nav married to a buff nav, anyone heard of a joint assignment other than Pensacola? Trying to figure out options other than White jets. Words?

Words:

Staff. AFGSC HQ. Any AOC. School cadre. Academy AOC. Safety Center. AFIA. Pentagon. ALO.

AFMC HQ. Any logistics center.

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I'm a tanker gal married to a different tanker guy. We are stationed over 6000 miles apart. Did our first assignment apart (3 years) and the functional was so helpful and accommodating he hooked us up with a UAV assignment to creech so we could 'be together' working opposite days and shifts. My advice to you? Get in the same airframe. You can forget it heavy to fighter and even heavy to heavy can become a nightmare with sequestration- there are no funds for cross flow if you aren't an instructor pilot in your airframe already which takes atleast 4-5 years to attain. If you have more questions PM me directly. My husband and I were rock stars in our units and our commanders were dialoguing to get us together and it didn't make a bit of difference, to UAVs we go. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

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I'm a tanker gal married to a different tanker guy. We are stationed over 6000 miles apart. Did our first assignment apart (3 years) and the functional was so helpful and accommodating he hooked us up with a UAV assignment to creech so we could 'be together' working opposite days and shifts. My advice to you? Get in the same airframe. You can forget it heavy to fighter and even heavy to heavy can become a nightmare with sequestration- there are no funds for cross flow if you aren't an instructor pilot in your airframe already which takes atleast 4-5 years to attain. If you have more questions PM me directly. My husband and I were rock stars in our units and our commanders were dialoguing to get us together and it didn't make a bit of difference, to UAVs we go.

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Quibbling.

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I'm a tanker gal married to a different tanker guy. We are stationed over 6000 miles apart. Did our first assignment apart (3 years) and the functional was so helpful and accommodating he hooked us up with a UAV assignment to creech so we could 'be together' working opposite days and shifts. My advice to you? Get in the same airframe. You can forget it heavy to fighter and even heavy to heavy can become a nightmare with sequestration- there are no funds for cross flow if you aren't an instructor pilot in your airframe already which takes atleast 4-5 years to attain. If you have more questions PM me directly. My husband and I were rock stars in our units and our commanders were dialoguing to get us together and it didn't make a bit of difference, to UAVs we go.

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Your post doesn't make much sense. Are you already at Creech, or are you just assuming you'll be opposite days/shifts?

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I'm a tanker gal married to a different tanker guy. We are stationed over 6000 miles apart. Did our first assignment apart (3 years) and the functional was so helpful and accommodating he hooked us up with a UAV assignment to creech so we could 'be together' working opposite days and shifts. My advice to you? Get in the same airframe. You can forget it heavy to fighter and even heavy to heavy can become a nightmare with sequestration- there are no funds for cross flow if you aren't an instructor pilot in your airframe already which takes atleast 4-5 years to attain. If you have more questions PM me directly. My husband and I were rock stars in our units and our commanders were dialoguing to get us together and it didn't make a bit of difference, to UAVs we go.

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Unfortunately 4-5 years to IP in the -135 is not accurate, it's much earlier.

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I'm a tanker gal married to a different tanker guy. We are stationed over 6000 miles apart. Did our first assignment apart (3 years) and the functional was so helpful and accommodating he hooked us up with a UAV assignment to creech so we could 'be together' working opposite days and shifts. My advice to you? Get in the same airframe. You can forget it heavy to fighter and even heavy to heavy can become a nightmare with sequestration- there are no funds for cross flow if you aren't an instructor pilot in your airframe already which takes atleast 4-5 years to attain. If you have more questions PM me directly. My husband and I were rock stars in our units and our commanders were dialoguing to get us together and it didn't make a bit of difference, to UAVs we go.

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Did you offer T-6s to Laughlin?

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Quibbling.

Are you mil-mil? If not, then why not GTFO of the thread and move into the squadron bar NSFW topic. I am no pro when it comes to join spouse shit but if you are considering pilot to pilot and have questions drop me a PM for real world examples.

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Are you mil-mil? If not, then why not GTFO of the thread and move into the squadron bar NSFW topic. I am no pro when it comes to join spouse shit but if you are considering pilot to pilot and have questions drop me a PM for real world examples.

You mad bro?

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Join spouse is a very stressful topic. The Air Force says they'll work with you but it's never a guarantee. You can either roll the die or be proactive in making it easier to get stationed together. Most of us are under commitment as well, so it's not like one of us can just get out. It's something we enter fully knowing, but it doesn't make it any less stressful. On top of that, someone's career almost always has to suffer. Fun times.

Right now my husband is stationed 100 miles away from my duty station. Got to love join spouse!

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Are you mil-mil? If not, then why not GTFO of the thread and move into the squadron bar NSFW topic. I am no pro when it comes to join spouse shit but if you are considering pilot to pilot and have questions drop me a PM for real world examples.

I'm civ-civ. And if when I was AD I asked to be at the same base as my wife and then complained about our schedules once I was there, I would punch myself in the jejunum.

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The Air Force says they'll work with you but it's never a guarantee.

I'm sure you already know this, but for the sake of clarity, this sentiment is prevalent in every aspect of AF service. Nothing is guaranteed, except that if you bend over, you are asking to get f…ed.

On top of that, someone's career almost always has to suffer. Fun times.

This is not specific to join-spouse situations. Civilian spouses of military personnel are at a considerable disadvantage (in the workforce) as compared to their non-military affiliated peers.

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Join spouse is a very stressful topic. The Air Force says they'll work with you but it's never a guarantee. You can either roll the die or be proactive in making it easier to get stationed together. Most of us are under commitment as well, so it's not like one of us can just get out. It's something we enter fully knowing, but it doesn't make it any less stressful. On top of that, someone's career almost always has to suffer. Fun times.

Right now my husband is stationed 100 miles away from my duty station. Got to love join spouse!

Yawn.

Nobody forced you to marry another .mil person. Single and mil-civ folks everywhere roll their eyes at shit like this.

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Yawn.

Nobody forced you to marry another .mil person. Single and mil-civ folks everywhere roll their eyes at shit like this.

It didn't sound like she was complaining, per se. Rather she was just saying how it can be (and is for her) stressful. I've heard guys say it's stressful when their wives can't find a job in their professional field while stationed at Clovis...they weren't forced either, but it doesn't make it any less stressful.

Unfortunately, the military seems to screw over all of its members these days, one way or another.

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As someone who was married mil-to-mil I share no sympathy towards mil-to-mil couples who bitch about not being assigned together. Both the USAF and sister services try their best to have folks stationed as close as possible. I knew a -135 pilot who constantly bitched that she couldn't get based with her Navy SWO husband. There should be no surprise that it may be difficult to base you or your spouse, based on their airframe, around the other's AFSC/airframe/branch. With that being said I know another -135 pilot who's 3-for-3 on assignments with his spouse who's in the USMC. Your mileage may vary, however I wouldn't bitch too much since you're both pulling down BAH.

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As someone who was married mil-to-mil I share no sympathy towards mil-to-mil couples who bitch about not being assigned together. Both the USAF and sister services try their best to have folks stationed as close as possible. I knew a -135 pilot who constantly bitched that she couldn't get based with her Navy SWO husband. There should be no surprise that it may be difficult to base you or your spouse, based on their airframe, around the other's AFSC/airframe/branch. With that being said I know another -135 pilot who's 3-for-3 on assignments with his spouse who's in the USMC. Your mileage may vary, however I wouldn't bitch too much since you're both pulling down BAH.

And both paying for a house/apartment and the associated bills.

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Was totally not bitching…like I said, it is something we entered into knowingly. I also posted this in a join spouse thread. I wasn't looking for your sympathy.

I find it hilarious that on this board as a whole people complain about Air Force leaders not caring about their people, and yet I just mention that join spouse is a dynamic I face with my career and people come out saying they don't give a f&*(&. That's fine, I just hope you are never in charge of me or someone else who has a family concern that would need your assistance is helping them out with their particular situation.

I don't think I'm special being join spouse, I just want it to be a factor to be legitamitely considered when I receive my next assignment. As you all know, the Air Force has regs in place to do so, but it really depends on whether that happens or not. I just wanted to pass along to others to be proactive in their assignments and not just assume that AFPC will take care of it.

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Yawn.

Nobody forced you to marry another .mil person. Single and mil-civ folks everywhere roll their eyes at shit like this.

My favorite is how commanders will go out of their way and move mountains to keep mil-mil together, but if you're a single guy? Well then fuck you, you get whatever the system gives you, you expendable single piece of shit, have fun in Clovis/Altus/MidwestSACBase playing with yourself.

I'm not saying it's not frustrating being mil-mil, but bitching about your petty troubles will probably alienate everyone else.

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We all have considerations we hope our bosses take to heart. All we can control is to not be "that guy" should we be in that position ourselves some day.

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