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Hey Duck, Wish things were better, but they are the way they are. I've not been divorced myself but I have had at least 20 of my peers, subordinates, and superiors in my Army time. Here are my insights added to what has been posted and I hope that are helpful: 1) Do not date until after your divorce is finalized. Especially if you are subject to UCMJ (which it doesn't appear is the case for you now?) as it is still adultery, even if legally separated, until divorce is final. Even outside the UCMJ you do not want the other party to muddy the process with "evidence" as well. You probably already know this, but there have been some fairly senior folks that were blindsided by this. I had a spouse who was encouraging girls to make passes at her soon to be divorced husband so she could "win" at the divorce. 2) The divorce process will corrupt even the nicest people sometimes. There are people who will see her behavior and see her honestly as the victim due to having the toughest job in world. In their eyes, her actions are just a symptom of the duress the military life put on her. They will coach her to do irrational things. Another spouse was coached to claim physical threat and even violence to get restraining order for "points" in the divorce proceedings. When they found out that path would lead to a Lautenberg amendment discharge, no retirement to get 50%, and a much reduced income to siphon off of when the Soldier exited the Army, they complete recanted. Be prepared for insanity to ensue due to coaching to lawyers, friends, and others and protect yourself from whatever accusals may come your way. 3) Watch what you say, write, text, email, post, snapchat, instagram, facebook, myspace, charge to your card, etc... It is all subject to discovery and usable as leverage. If you don't want the whole world to see it, including your children, do not do it. 4) Hopefully you have a lawyer and they understand your wishes. Some lawyers are really good at "winning" and burying the spouse. Just make sure you see eye to eye on the outcomes you want. As others have said, if you need to change lawyers midstream - do it. The wrong lawyer can be more wrong than no lawyer. No lawyer is pretty bad. 5) As others have said -- find positive activities and people to surround yourself with. With one caveat, if you do need to vent about the process -- suggest doing that with someone that has some sort of client/patient privilege and is obliged not to share information with other parties. Hope for a smooth path and tailwinds for you -- your posts have been very helpful in my move to the Air Force.

OR...spend your hard earned money how you want...then ask her to pick you up from said establishment! Cooter

What is the origin of a prohibition on aero club management discussion?

I know of a unit that when they were forced to switch from fighters to heavy they took all the squadron furniture threw it on the flightline and set it on fire. This was at an international airport nonetheless. Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app

That is Painful Duck, so sorry to hear about this and may your pain be brief as possible. Based upon others I have flown with: 1. Push as fast and hard to get it done and over. Get your life back straight and level. 2. House is a normal loss/buy out. Lucky no retirement to lose at this juncture. 3. I know it’s hard, but consider yourself lucky timing wise as you are at the beginning of an airline gig = lowest pay!!! Imagine being a 12-15 year 76, etc Airline Captain pulling in an avg $360K annually or more. Super unfortunate, but you may have dodged a significant financial bullet now vs later.... My friend has remained an FO for 2 years now to keep the courts from using Capt pay to calculate alimony. XWife to be has been pushing him out his apartment door to fly overtime AND also pushing him to sign up for Capt, hence she is dragging the divorce out... He lives in FL. Stay strong for your kids AND stay strong for you! Godspeed!

False. Only certain AFSCs get the full $35k/yr. Helo pilot bonuses have decreased the past two years, and are back to $25k/yr, for example.

Get a feel for a few schools and chat with a couple instructors at those schools. You’re purchasing a product, and you want to find a structure that works for you and primary instructor who is genuinely interested in your success. After chatting with a few CFIs, I’d be surprised if you don’t find somebody who offers some instruction off the clock (let them offer; it is not the norm or expectation). Remember that the school’s incentives may or may not align with your goals. Talk to other student pilots about their experience and who the best instructors are. Pick somebody with whom you find it easy to communicate. Ask a technical question about airplanes. Ask them a question about aviation history or regulations. Ask them a question about an aviation career. If you don’t actually feel more educated than when the conversation started, try again with somewhere/somebody else. Finally, there are a lot of douchebag CFIs out there who will unashamedly lie to you or make ridiculous claims of their abilities. Don’t feed them. The really great ones won’t have to tell you about how great they are.

If you want to be at the leading edge of capability and uniqueness and capability of thought, go to a unit that flies something in the Air to Air role. F15C/F22. It is a dynamic ever changing environment that you can’t really plan 100% for but you can prepare for. Fighters in general are that way and all are awesome in their own rights but take a tremendous amount of daily commitment and desire to be good at employing the platform you are in, in a war time environment. You don’t want to be the guy who is average or ok. You won’t last long because they can’t afford it. So if the only answer to why you want to fly fighters or F15Cs in general is because you had a poster of them on your wall when you were growing up, I can tell you that won’t be enough. So when you are busting your butt and working really hard to get where or what you want, and you ask yourself “why am I working this hard and doing this to myself?” and you answer because of a poster and because it’s cool (it is) then you will likely not do as well or give up. So really you need to sit down and self assess the what and the why and then don’t let anyone stop you because your why is so powerful to you that you would do most anything to accomplish it.

That was for commercial, but the other stuff was for PPL.

Sounds like someone is hiding booze and strip club visits from the wifey. I'm impressed. How do you carry such a negative balance aside from severely overpaying it out of your own checking account?

I don’t know, but why wouldn’t you just save $300 and blow it when you get there, or get a separate credit card your family can’t see, or maybe save the money or find someone who doesn’t question....oh, nevermind, I’m ramblin’ now. Putting it on your GTC seems like a recipe for disaster to me.

Found another way to see where your PC app sits through vMPF’s Case Management System link at the top right of the vMPF homepage. Maybe this is common knowledge, but wasn’t for me as I just assumed since I didn’t have CMS access I couldn’t track it. Confirmed this morning you are able to view your own cases by selecting “active cases” inside that page. Unfortunately it doesn’t list contact info but does have office symbol with a time/date stamp of when that office was assigned it. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

Well this post didn't age well...

Just watched this and might need a little “me time” now. Some of the best air to air footage I’ve seen. The sound is great as well. I watched wearing a decent set of headphones and the Merlin/Griffon recordings made the hair on the back of my neck stand up. Best thing I’ve watched in a while.

And then we want pictures.

So untrue.

The pain of dealing with the Aeroclub was not worth the cash saved IMO. Leave it to the AF to make FCIF's, mandatory all calls, and an ops limit/bold face for a 150hp bug smasher.

You are describing taxation. Taxation is not socialism. Let’s allow words to still have meaning.

First, I don't necessarily think free college is a good idea. I honestly just haven't made up my mind on it. I want to put that out there so that you don't automatically assume that I'm Karl Che Lenin Stalin reincarnated. Second, the label of socialism doesn't apply to the government providing free college for everyone because the state doesn't own the means of production (in this case of knowledge), they're simply paying private institutions for the knowledge. This is a semantics argument which I feel dirty using, but it's important because if you're going to argue that a policy won't work because it's socialism, then you need to apply that label correctly. Last, if free college is socialism, then is free K-12 education also socialism? How is that any different? All we would be doing is taking people from a 12th grade education level up to a 16th grade education level. This could be a complete waste of money, but again, I'm not trying to talk about that merits of free college. I'm trying to get you guys to realize that calling everything you disagree with "socialism" or "fascism" is specious.

All, I came across an interesting article to share with the group. It's more geared toward flight attendants, but still very relevant to our line of work: http://www.livescience.com/62913-cancer-risk-flight-attendants.html