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Sorry to hear that, Brother. Wrap your brain around the concept that she will get half of everything you ever earned while you were together. If you're able to come out better, then it's all gravy. Do everything you can to remain civil and professional with her. Never let your kids hear you say anything bad about her. Ever. Not once. As strange as this sounds, moving forward your relationship with her, and it's failure are none of their business. No matter how badly she may behave, she's their Mom. If you can sit down at the kitchen table with her and put it all on a legal pad, you'll save yourself a lot of angst and attorney fees. If you can "give in" to certain things she wants in order to facilitate a quick agreement in return for certain things you want, it's worth every penny. People will give you advice like: "Roll in on that cunt and fight her tooth and nail!" Ask those people to compare what they think they "won" in court financially to what it cost to litigate it. It isn't worth it. Moving forward, your relationship with her is going to be jointly parenting your kids. That relationship will be healthier for the kids if the two of you can agree to act like adults ad settle as amicably and quickly as possible. Now; You. You're a pro. Compartmentalize like a MF and work your way through indoc and IOE. When you get a chance, take some time for yourself. Nonrev to Hawaii and put it all out of your mind for a few days. Exercise is your friend - the more the better. At some point in all of this process, you'll have come far enough and gotten past the anger enough to look at what happened a little more objectively. When that happens, the single most important thing you can do is forgive her and yourself for what happened. Let it fucking go. You're also about to re-learn who your real friends are. Lean on those folks. Bigtime. Don't medicate with booze or food. That's it. The day you have to tell your children is the worst day of your life. Everyday after that will be just a little bit better. Good luck, chum. Those of us who've been through this are rooting for you. Hell, you can at least call yourself a real airline pilot now!

She claims she didn't say anything at the time because she “didn’t trust the system at the time.” GMAFB She sued the SecDef and went on 60 minutes. She wasn't afraid to speak up when she thought she'd been wronged. This is all about her. Just like everything she's ever done is all about her.

I liked this one on Prime:

Matmacwc! I'm your Huckleberry! Being a FAIP from the 1980's, I have mad fix-to-fix skills. Feel free to drop me a pm and I'm sure we can schedule a video-teleconference and I'll draw it all out (4 colors, naturally) on the whiteboard (no chalk, sorry). Sewer Rat, we can include you on the call if you want to learn too. I'm here to help.

Ok, she's raped while wearing the uniform, but is ashamed and/or doesn't trust the system (which I actually concur with), but claims she talks about the today but doesn't name names while serving as a sitting senator and can damn sure ensure justice is done because Big Blue would roll over so fast to bring some drunk idiot out of retirement to prosecute him (assumption), she, having been a Hawg driver couldn't calculate that speed. I'm looking a little squinty eyed at the senator from Arizona... Oh, and "ewww…"

#fakenews She claims to be the first female fighter pilot, but she flew A-10's.... I'll leave that grenade here as I slowly walk away.

I also applaud her political works however I’m not going to discount that while she was in in the USAF, she was known as a careerist who would do anything to make a name and get noticed. Highly likelihood of exploiting things/topics for political leverage. And until I get details, I’m always skeptical of what = rape/assault/harassment in 2019. I drove some libs nuts one evening during a Kavanaugh debate where I recounted my story of being grabbed and forcibly kissed by a girl while in a drunken state thus making me by their definition 2 min prior, a victim of assault. They went off the rails on me, which I then accused them of victim shaming and being part of the problem. Great fun to see them attack their own argument. Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app

There's a big difference here: CB Ford was trying to ruin someone (Kavanaugh). McSally doesn't seem to be going the vindictive route. She simply states "Yes, it happened to me, and I get it.". She's not starting a Congressional inquiry to ruin an innocent man. If I'm missing something about her intent, let me know. I really know very little about the woman. The few things I do see since she retired from the USAF, I applaud.

Ask lawyer about recording in-person and in-home. If possible, record 100% of your time around her JIC. Oh, move any guns to a responsible third party. http://www.dmlp.org/legal-guide/florida-recording-law

That sucks. Im in the middle of a very bad one myself. My STBX just tried to sell our house without me knowing (im TDY right now). She has filed a motion to sell it and sent it to my lawyer. I now have to go to court to stop her (Ill win just another 1G down the drain). She is all over the place. Here is what you need to do: Don't move out its your house. I made this mistake. Stop Drinking until its over. Do not yell at her or touch her. She could try to get an EPO which if you lose in court gets you a DVO. You don't want to take the risk if she wants to be heard infront of the judge Lawyer up and don't be afraid to fire your lawyer mid stream Know that you are not your lawyer's priority they are balancing their practice as well; just find the best one you can that is smart. Get a Tempory Motion (or whatever they call it in Florida) immediatly for: Custudy - NEVER grant her sole custudy, get joint legal & physical Visitiation schedule and time sharing -- I travel extensivley for work I did not get one and the STBX fights me every time I want to take the kids on a trip/have them overnight. I know your lifestyle; for visitation/ timesharing get it written in that you will decide on a schedule by a certian day for the next month. Child support A staus quo agreement -- meaning no depriciation of join assests and additional joint debt. Seperate all joint accounts Cancel all joint CCs Get organized Every email/text phone call goes infront of a judge Get a phone recording app that records every call automatically Fight paying her any maintenance -- research jobs she is capable of getting to demonstrate she can make more than minimum wage. Duck I could go on and on Im 1.5yrs into this because she is unreasonable. Most important Love your kids.

It seems to be a requirement nowadays. If you want to be an empowered female, you have to make vague references to a dark past of innocent and helpless sexual victimization. Then you indignantly argue that any questions or criticisms about anything you say or do are examples of how the patriarchy continues it's oppression.

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Their arguments are based on emotion so it’s fairly easy to get them turned around, usually pisses them off when they figure it out. I then usually get attacked for being a white male, it’s fun throwing out a #metoo when they do. Anyone else see the irony in poundmetoo?

Check parent paragraph. Only applies when in performance of flight crew duties. 8.12.3. When worn in the performance of flight crew duties, aircrew must adhere to the following guidelines to ensure the full protective properties of the uniform are maintained:

With your new airline career ahead, you will soon put this all behind you. My first day at a major was just as exciting as my first day at UPT. Like someone said, don't get involved, enjoy single life. I div before going to the airlines and unless you are flying boxes, it is a very target rich environment. Stayed single for 28 years then married a wonderful lady going into retirement. The day of my div was one of the happiest days of my life, a huge weight off my shoulders. Best of luck.

Sorry to hear that! Be a good father. Don't let her sins damage your ability to be a good parent. Act as the better man. That means be civil ALWAYS, and also plan ahead to prevent her from taking advantage of your politeness. ...and yeah, get a good lawyer and follow their advice.

Florida is a two party consent state, which means you can't record someone without their consent, contrary to Federal Law. She can't legally record you and use it against you in a court of law and vice versa. There are exceptions, however, in extreme cases involving domestic violence and child/sexual abuse.

Delete your browsing history get a burner phone maybe. If you have you Apple ID logged into multiple devices laying around the house, they are all connected and will show what you are doing online. That’s where I would go to inspect what the wife is doing. If you have a “family” set up under apple, you can use “find my iPhone” to track said person. I wouldn’t put hidden cameras out of the realm of possibilities either. These are some of the easy things I would do, it works in reverse though so watch out! Shes a terrible person and she’ll get her due someday, but who are the dudes? What fuckknobs!

I you haven't seen Spitfire (available on Amazon Prime Video), you are missing a helluva good documentary! Pure flying porn!

Case by case I assume. In my case, for a ROTC Det CC position, it took about 9 months from app submittal to orders starting (notification that I was approved was about 2 months prior to the orders starting). I would assume some other tours such as just going back to being a line flyer in a squadron would be much shorter.

Sorry to hear it. All very good advice on this thread. Never underestimate the power these b$tches have in the legal system and what they will do when they get desperate. Be one step ahead of her and be just be glad she will not be able to touch your airline retirement, which could literally be worth millions when you are 60. Also, don't rebound into a new relationship too soon, especially while you are separated. She can use that against you when it comes to child custody if you are living with a new fling. Most importantly, know that everything happens for a reason, which may be hard to understand now, but sometime down the line you'll look back on this as a good thing.

KC-46 selection board v3.0 results were released. Best part was the comment about selectees should feel free to apply to other assignments.

Solid advice brother. Meeting a lawyer tomorrow. I appreciate everyone on here. Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app

A good squadron buddy of mine went through this last year... if I could give you one piece of advice from the observer POV..even if you think you can do everything amicably, still get a lawyer.. his started out with her being reasonable and agreeing to things but devolved into some awful shit and ended up involving lawyers

Did you see this coming from a mile away? https://apple.news/AUuIoXnfrTFaSN1F7GdzxEw https://www.foxnews.com/politics/arizona-gop-sen-martha-mcsally-says-she-was-raped-in-air-force-by-a-superior-officer

https://www.myfloridalaw.com/divorce/adultery-and-divorce-in-florida/ Get her immediately served with a assets freeze order if prudent. http://www.collaborativefamilylawfl.com/divorce-in-florida-some-answers-to-difficult-questions-by-howard-raab-esq/

Lawyer up, delete Facebook, and hit the gym is the popular mantra on Reddit. Look at it this way, you don’t have an AD retirement she can take half of, and you might as well move to whatever base you get to make sitting reserve easier. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

What the fuck was that, and what’s a Top 3 in relation to this site? (Never mind, I get it now) If he was in the military (big if), the psych evaluation failed. We have a few NCO’s on this site and they are great, you are not. i defer my time to Huggy’s question, go with you thoughts on crew loads and minimum fuel burn. Better yet, go with your techniques on a fix to fix. I flew fighters for thousands of hours and never really got it, maybe you can help. If GPS fails, I’m screwed.

Sewer Rat, Could you comment on pitfalls affecting the airline industry? Thanks, Huggy

This was a great satire! I never would have see this otherwise so thanks for the plug! Highly recommend. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

Watched Apollo 11 at an IMAX last night. There's no narration. The story, launch through landing, is told through original footage and audio, with some music added. Many of the film scenes I had never seen before. Almost all of it was restored to look as if it were shot yesterday on UHD digital cameras. The Saturn 5 launch will blow your mind. The whole movie was F'n inspiring. Best theater experience I've had in years.

Apparently, Boeing is working on a fix. I hate CNN.

"Volunteering." In our case, we get told the squadron is being mob'd, so in theory the entire squadron could be told your going (or backfilling our alert det while the squadron is gone). We then "get" to pick our flavor (vol vs invol) of being mob'd...which is akin to asking if we'd like a reach around while we're being bent over.

I’m not sure this particular thread is about sport bitching. We are again being asked to do more with less, to the detriment of the overall security of the country. Without getting into the weeds or spilling state secrets, tankers have always had ONE primary mission, and it wasn’t sitting in the ‘deid taking off so that someone else could have a parking spot. Our overall strategic mission is suffering, and this damn sure won’t help when our JO’s go to T-tails, IMA’s or just leave. I wouldn’t change my military career for anything, but it’s been 20+ years and I’ve seen the good, and I’m shaking my damn head at the bad. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

Yeah, that's what I was referring to...there's been a significant drop-off in quality since his departure.

So, she's a diehard supporter of the "grab-em-by-the-pussy boss, to include voting for Brett Kavenaugh, because you know, that crazy bitch obviously made it all up. 😒 But now she's a victim that deserves to be believed because it really did happen to her? Unlike Kavenaugh's accuser, with her seat in Congress, she won't have to hide, move and deal with death threats. What a total piece of shit. Unless she names the person, I don't believe a word that comes out of her mouth.

What LJDRVR said.